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Dear
John,
First, I want you to
know that I got the number and called the Jersey police.
Not
hearing from Morgan worried me and I am sure you can understand why.
You know she is emotionally unstable and needs calm, not
continuous fear an, pain, and manipulation. We talked about
your own concerns that she might harm herself before I know the whole
story. And while it pains me to mention this you must
know that battering her is wrong on every level.
You
should not try to keep Morgan from communicating with her family and
concerned friends. That is part of a pattern of control that is
always associated with batterers.
I
still think you both should be in therapy. You should also stop
lying and face what you have done. You are an intelligent man.
You must know, in your heart, what doing the right thing means.
Please get help, face
what you have done, and do the right thing.
Melinda
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Re: He won't stpp!!you were right,I am dead |
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12/28/01 5:25:42 PM Pacific Standard Time |
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He turned off the phones!!!
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Letter on previous conversation |
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12/29/01 11:23:28 AM Pacific Standard Time |
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Dear
John,
I am certainly glad that
we talked earlier today. I will begin by reiterating the
content of our conversation.
I
do believe that your emotional end mental condition is deteriorating
making your working life problematical. I am concerned about
you and will, as I said, pray for your well being and moral health.
I do not believe that
you are yet being completely frank with me. Regrettably,
I do continue to believe that you have used a combination of
violence, manipulation and fraud to control Morgan. You have
not been appropriate or ethical. Telling your friends and
professional associates one thing and doing another is unacceptable.
Morgan did call me this morning but she told me that she was
actually in the room while we , you and I, were talking and heard me
ask to talk to her. You lied again. She has also told me
that you watch her when she writes me e-mails and insist on
monitoring her conversations sometimes. I had suspected that
because of her tone when this is happening. This probably
seemed like a tinsy little lie to you but lying is simply not
acceptable. It must stop.
You
and Morgan are desperately in need of professional intervention. I
discussed this with Morgan and she is going to find a therapist who
specializes in couples counseling.
You
once had a romantic relationship with Morgan. She is still
important to you. You told me that not four hours ago.
Either you two will
resolve your differences and become a functioning couple or you will
be enabled by appropriate mediation to part company in a way that
leaves each of you stronger and able to function as individuals.
This may include reparations from yourself to Morgan so that
she can build an independent life for herself. Restitution for
previous inappropriate behavior that caused loss is not blackmail.
I know it is difficult
for you to confront the impact that your behavior had on her. But
this is an essential element of effective therapy.
Morgan
is an intelligent and innovative person who reacts to your
inappropriate behavior in ways that can and will harm you.
You and I
discussed beginning three way conversations between us, you, myself
and Morgan. I am willing. While that is certainly
possible it is not really as important as you beginning that process
between yourself and a reputable therapist/mediator. A
therapist will be under professional constraints regarding your
confidentiality and removed emotionally from the issues. That
is good. I am Morgan's mother but I do not want to be that
involved in the process.
Please
cooperate and get into therapy with Morgan. This is not about
'winning' or 'losing.' It is about you and truth and doing the
right thing for both of you.
The
world cannot be saved if those who would be its salvation depend on
lies.
I will continue to pray for both of you and for a
positive outcome.
Melinda
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I do care about Morgan |
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12/29/01 6:46:54 PM Pacific Standard Time |
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I just can't take any
more,what would you want me to
do?I have realized lately that I do
love her,when should it be?John
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Dear
John,
I am worried that I
have not heard from you. You really, really need to get
started in your recovery process and, frankly, I do not see how that
is possible without some professional help.
I
know with Arthur I sometimes need to push him. I have to do
that just today to get him our of the dumps and off to church. He
was much better when he came home; he had been out, visited with
friends and had lunch and companionship.
Your
needs are different, of course. You need to get straight with
the past so you and Morgan can move on, either together or
separately.
Friends can
help. How about if I call some of the people we both know and
see if they agree that you should get into therapy? I
think you would be surprised how many people in public life have had
problems and handled them through just this kind of process.
I don't think I ever
mentioned that my best friend Shelly's husband is with the CIA and he
has had problems himself with his mother. Her problems were
much worse than yours but therapy has helped enormously. He is
in Europe right now because his work took him over there, but I
could talk to Shelley and ask her for some referrals on the east
coast. Shelley and I have never seen eye to eye on politics but
she knows a lot of people.
But
there are other possibilities. I will think about it and see
who I can come up with in NY who could be helpful. Maybe I
should call Wally? We hae both known him for so many years that
he is sure to be sympathetic.
Hope everything is going
better and that you are in therapy with Morgan.
Melinda
In
a message dated 12/30/01 9:20:07 AM Pacific Standard Time,
John.Fund@wsj.com writes:
Yes, I am seeking advice and counsel. Good point.
Dear John,
I am so glad to hear it. I know that this will all work out for both of you.
Melinda
He found her within 24 hours and moved in.
On January 19th he gave Morgan checks as part of a settlement. Soon afterwards he asked for a phone conference and that I intercede and help he and Morgan reach a settlement. He also asked me to write a proposed settlement agreement and calculate what seemed fair.
We had the conference but it failed to settle anything. I wrote John a letter, outlining the reasons it had failed.
Dear John,
I am very disappointed with the outcome of our conference call of last night. I had sincerely hoped for a mutually appropriate resolution so that each of us can go on with our lives. My points of concern are as follows:
First, your continued assertion that you have not slandered me, even in the face of written confirmation to the contrary. .I cannot afford to let myself be slandered. I will take all ethically appropriate steps available to me to deal with this problem.
Second. Your assertion that you did not continue to have a spousal relationship with Morgan. You did continue that relationship. The sexual aspect is entirely independent. You were serially unfaithful and dishonest; you used your infidelity to enrage her and that is in and of itself proof that you were well aware that the two of you were in a continuing relationship. That the relationship was very unhealthy is very clear, but that you treated her as your wife is also apparent. Not to say that you accorded her the benefits of marriage; just that you expected her to provide the services of a wife – without compensation.
As I pointed out last night, your sexually predatory behavior towards other women does not discount your relationship with Morgan. It is regrettable but true than many husbands are very unfaithful and abusive.
Third. Morgan did not assert to either the police or me that you had engaged in a particular form of abuse. She simply described what had happened and independently both the police and myself, among others, recognized your behavior as egregiously abusive and violent.
Four. Your continued demands that ‘Morgan muzzle me and then lie for you’ are simply outrageous. I do and will continue to tell the truth, as you know to your evident chagrin.
Your entire life has been about evasion, control and manipulation. I am calling you on it, not just for my own sake and Morgan’s but for your own sake. Just tell the truth. Lying cannot work any more.
I continue to be very willing to meet with you when I am in New York. But you must now provide documentation in the form of statements from a list, to be provided my Morgan, that you have recalled your slanders. I want proof of delivery and they must be notarized. In regards to Morgan, you must recognize that your present circumstances do not relieve you of your obligations to make her whole.
In hopes of a quick resolution.
Melinda
Melinda sent the letter to Gene Gaudette, who put it up on line.
